Oh So Hard to Start!

DecisionsMany people with ADD have difficulty starting a task or project – whether at home, school, or at work.  Typically, the reasons included (but are not limited to) feeling overwhelmed by it, its boring or tedious, or maybe you’d just rather be on Facebook!

No matter what the reason, its something you either don’t believe you CAN do, or WANT to do.  It remains on that ever long To Do List, or is simply shoved out of your mind as you move onto something more interesting, fun or easier to do.  Yet, somewhere deep inside you KNOW that time is ticking away and that this task is something that really needs to get done.  Just knowing it, yet not DOING it, can even lead to anxiety.  Then, the growing anxiety makes it even MORE difficult to start!

So, how does one begin what I commonly refer to as a yukky task?  There are a variety of strategies, but the one I’d like to share with you today is starting with a very small piece.  It can even be just five minutes of time.  But it will be a start!

If you have a timer, you may want to set it.  Or, use your cell phone to set a short alarm.  The method isn’t nearly as important as knowing you’re just going to spend a few minutes on this today.  AND, it doesn’t even matter if what you do to start your project is even well done.  The point is just to GET STARTED.  Once you have your task started, even a tiny bit of it – you’ll likely find that you feel a sense of relief that it has indeed been started…and hope, that by having started you’ll eventually be able to finish!

Isn’t there something you’ve been putting off that you’d like to finally do?  Why not take five minutes and START!

Rhonda

Positively Not Perffect!

21393494_sA rather common issue for people with ADD is perfectionism.  Oh boy – that’s a tough one.  Why?  Because there ain’t no such thing!  One can strive for good enough, or even excellence, but perfect just doesn’t exist.  And those individuals who continually strive for this unattainable goal are spinning their wheels like a hamster on a teeny, tiny, treadmill.

This may be the one time in your life where someone is suggesting that you lower your standards.  Clearly, most people want to do their best in life – whether a project at work, or a student writing a paper.  But nobody’s best is perfect.  In reality, reaching for perfection is like reaching for a star.  Your arms will never be long enough to get to it.  So, doing your best within a reasonable period of time is truly good enough.

Here’s a homework assignment:  When you realize you’re ruminating over every last detail and you could go on doing so indefinitely if someone doesn’t shout “Stop Already!” — just take a time out and repeat this mantra for two entire minutes — This Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect…. This Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect…This Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect…

I apologize if I’m coming across with a sarcastic edge, when all I truly mean to be is humorous. You see, there just isn’t a perfect way for me to get this information across.  After all, I’m not perfekt, either!

Coach Rhonda